5 – Knowing the Stumbling Blocks

The “Looking Good” trap:

The “looking good” trap refers to the fact that you are getting healthier. You look much better. No one would guess by your appearance that you have a substance use problem. Other people can tempt you to slip or relapse. You might also begin to doubt that you have a drug or drinking problem. Don’t let the mirror fool you. Remind yourself that your looks improve faster than your mind.

Money

Paydays can be a big stumbling block. Some people binge when they get money. As paydays approach, you must plan how to get bills paid without spending it on drugs or alcohol. If money is one of your triggers, don’t carry any until you are stable in your abstinence.

If you need to, take a friend or family member with you when you go shopping.
Dealers and other users know when you get paid and might come looking for you. Plan ways to avoid them.

Thinking Patterns

To keep recovery going, it is important not to trick yourself. Don’t romanticise your past life. Don’t expect your desire for drugs or alcohol to go away quickly. Stop and remind yourself of the pain that drugs caused you. Review the good things about being clean and sober.

Don’t talk about the fun of substance use. Ask your friends to interrupt you when this happens. Don’t listen when others talk about the fun of use. Change the subject or walk away for a moment.

You might even find yourself doubting you have a drug problem. If that happens, put it to a test: Go to an NA/AA or similar meeting and listen to their stories. If they sound like yours, you will be reminded what your addiction is.

Other Substances

Stay away from drugs you didn’t have a problem with. Your chosen drug may have been different but you should stay away from anything else that can lead you into using again.

Emotional Issues

Some people experience severe depression and anxiety in the months after detox. If depression or anxiety gets in the way of your recovery, you should get help.

Anger often leads to relapse. Situations that can cause anger, especially giving or receiving criticism, need careful handling.

If you have experienced physical or emotional abuse, staying away from drugs and alcohol will be even more difficult. Find a counsellor trained in treating trauma.

If you are in an abusive relationship, it can be difficult for you to stay sober. Abuse and drug use go hand in hand. Get help.